By now, nobody should believe that when two people decide to be together; “They are happy and eat partridges”. Relationships are expensive they take time and consist in sharing a part of your life with another so things do not always go as you want. It is a kind of democracy between two human beings who decide to be together freely but who do not get 100% what they want although they respect their differences and coexist in harmony. The problem (as it happens in the social field) is when it comes to bringing this beautiful idea into practice, even more so if we take into account the amount of myths that surround couple relationships and how it should be to be (or not) a perfect conjugal life. Start by breaking down these irrational ideas about happiness as a couple so that you can really live a reality that has nothing to envy the story.
The members of the couple should also be best friends
Although the case may be from a friendship to something else, the decisions that two people make in one friendship do not influence the other while in a couple relationship happens. It is not the same to have a friend who does not want to have children or who has an ideology completely opposite to yours than to have to live with that person day after day and make decisions from opposite perspectives.
In a couple you must share everything [19659003] It is another of the fallacies inherited from romantic love. While it is true that in a couple the fact that have shared activities and passions is very heavy the joint values are also very important. Of course it is ruled out that the members of a couple do everything together.
Couples who spend many years of boyfriends, separate at marriage
] There are myths that are provoked by romantic love and there are others that are simple cognitive biases that we have internalized . Who does not know the case of the couple who have lived together since 15 years and who, suddenly, get married and divorce? The reality is that it has nothing to do with the fact of getting married. Rather, they may discover that when they take this step that there is no longer anything in the couple or that they are looking for different destinations . It’s natural, especially if you start a relationship from a very young age, that a big change like marriage implies that both members wonder if it’s worth it .
… and truths to keep in mind in your relationship of couple
Although there is nothing sure, every time there is more research about the ways to predict if a relationship is going to bear fruit or not.
Confidence : It is the classic par excellence. If in a couple there is no trust in the other, there is no long-term relationship that resists it. In this regard, communication is the key to find the ideal person. The ability to stop moments of mistrust is the way couples can be successful in the long term.
They are themselves when they are in pairs : People who show another face when they are far from their partner are, often, those who will not be with her for long.
Intimacy in a couple without boredom : Defined based on four variables that are physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, intellectual intimacy and shared activities.
Communication (of the good): Communicating is not just about holding long conversations about the human and the divine. It is, rather, having a communicative hygiene that avoids reproaching and holding a grudge against the other . This can lead to the end of the relationship.
External Elements: When all goes well, wanting is very easy but, when does something go wrong? Or when there is an external crisis that affects one or both partners? The resistance to adversity as a team is what differentiates couples that last from those that do not. The mutual support is fundamental in these cases.
